Are you where you want to be in life? If not, keep reading. There may be some things you’re doing that are causing that.
It amazes me that so many people go through life complaining about something they CHOOSE to do, CHOOSE to be and CHOOSE to continue instead of doing something about it.
“Ugh, I have to go to work.”
“Ugh, if I only had more money.”
“Ugh, I’m so fat and out of shape.”
“Ugh, I hate this traffic.”
“Ugh, if it wasn’t for so and so my life would be better.”
And the list goes on. You know those people. Maybe you’re one of them. They complain about EVERYTHING! And you wonder, why don’t you do something about it instead of complaining?
Are there times when we all go “ugh”? Of course. It’s in our nature to want to complain but when your life is one big “ugh” you are training your brain to not only be negative but to see the world as one big obstacle, and as if you’re a victim of all those things versus choosing them.
My favourite is when people tell me they are stuck. They are stuck where they live. They are stuck where they work. They don’t have a choice and the excuses continue.
Stuck is a mindset. Not a physical reality. Unless you’re glued and tied down to a chair, that’s bolted down, with no chance of escaping. Now you can say you’re stuck! Let’s not hope that’s the case.
You CHOOSE to live where you live, work where you work, and the life you are living. Every single decision you have made has led to where you are. You choose to not make the effort to find a better job, you choose to not move, and you choose to not do anything about improving your life, getting in shape, improving your relationships, and seeking out new friends.
It’s not the co-workers, the weather, your boss, the government, the economy, the family, the community or any other external reasons that are behind you feeling stuck. It’s your mindset and your lack of taking action.
You are 100% responsible for where you are today and you are 100% responsible for where you will be in the future.
How do you start changing that “ugh” and “stuck” mindset? You start by changing your thinking, your language, and your attitude. You stop looking at everything around you as the reason for where you are and instead take a real good look at yourself. If you want to change your life, you must first change yourself. Change starts within you.
One. Change your language from “I have to…” to “I get to…” You get to go to work, you get to sit in traffic, you get to work on a project that may be driving you crazy, you get to answer emails, and you get to do x, y and z.
When you use “I get to…” you not only go from a negative to a positive outlook. Using the phrase “I get to…” infuses gratitude. You’re alive and get to do x, y and z.
Gratitude is the bridge to happiness, abundance and feeling empowered.
Your attitude and how you look at things make all the difference. You can choose how you respond to something. That is all in your power to do.
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” ~Wayne Dyer
Two. If you’re not where you want to be in life – change it! You are where you are because of your choices. It’s no one else’s fault. Take your power back and take consistent action toward what you want. You are 100% in the driver’s seat. Stop waiting for someone to hand you your dream life. It’s not going to happen unless you take action and consistently move toward what you want. The time will pass anyway, so start working towards changing your situation.
What small step can you take every single day towards changing your situation? Rome wasn’t built in one day, but it was built because someone took action.
Three. Work hard on your mindset every single day. It’s just like changing a habit. Practice your affirmations, meditations, and visualizations, read, write and re-wire that brain of yours to an abundant mindset filled with possibilities.
For this to work you can’t just sort of do it. You must be 100% committed. Studies done by NASA show that in order to change your neurological pathways (i.e your thinking and processing pathways) you must practice a new habit (ex. affirmations) 30 days in a row to get the effect. At around day 26 to day 30, those new pathways are forming. It takes that long! Miss a single day and you have to start over. After 90 days this new way of thinking is part of you.
Four. Create a support team of friends, coaches, mentors, and masterminds. You need a team to help you go to where you want to go. Get out of the scarcity mindset that you can do this on your own. Successful people not only invest in themselves but they know it takes a village to get to the top.
Five. Be patient. Success doesn’t come overnight. It arrives when you are CLEAR on where you are going, when you take CONSISTENT action, and when you surround yourself with a TEAM that can help you stay on track.
Time will pass regardless so you might as well use the time to work on creating the kind of life you want to live. If you don’t, then you can’t complain about where you are simply because you didn’t do anything about it. And there my friend is your kick in the rear for today. Now, go set a goal for where you will be in 90 days and then work on it daily. Then rinse and repeat. You got this! And remember, it’s always about progress, not perfection.